By Heidi Bornhorst

My tita, Mimi, was incensed when two women drove up and just helped themselves to her Plumeria flowers. This was not casual ‘one for my hair, one for my sister’s hair,’ but full on taking of a lot of blossoms, she said they even had fancy flower picking baskets!
When she confronted them, they said they thought it was ok because the tree was adjacent to the street. After a bit of discussion, they told her that if she didn’t want anyone to pick the flowers, she should put up a sign.
A few days later a neighbor she casually knew came up the street, reminded her that our mother and her grandmother had been friends and nicely asked if she could pick some flowers so she could make a lei. Mimi invited her into the yard and happily shared the pua.

She explained the ones on the inside are nicer and less sun and wind burnt. As they chatted Mimi went and picked a bag of her famous Tahitian limes to give to the neighbor.
What a difference! We love to share if asked nicely.
I remember back when we lived up Wahiawa, I heard some noises and came outside. There was a man, instructing his kid to not only pick my front flowers, but also to CUT some pink gingers.
Without thinking too much (gotta be careful these flower thieves know where you live!) Tita mode came out and I chastised the man, saying my flowers were not just randomly growing and teaching his kid to steal flowers is not pono!

On another occasion I heard some women admiring my Madeira, Portuguese roses, they were so nice that I carefully clipped them a bouquet, and shared propagation advice. We all became friends because they asked nicely when admiring my flowers.
Gardeners and Horticulturists love to share and talk story with fellow plant lovers.

One thing I always knew, which was reinforced when I worked at Foster Botanic Gardens and Honolulu Botanical gardens, is to share plants and to keep records of garden specimens.
With good records if you lose a plant, your plant friends or cooperating botanic garden will have backup. It can be as simple as a note on a calendar, or full on in your garden diary.










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